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INTRODUCTION
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CHAPTER 1 “LIONS AND TIGERS AND
BEARS, OH MY!”
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1 |
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Joanna’s tale
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1 |
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Barry’s tale
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2 |
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Joe’s tale
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3 |
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Harry’s tale
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6 |
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Maria’s tale
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6 |
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What’s going on here?
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7 |
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What does it mean?
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8 |
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What is anxiety and where
does it come from?
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11 |
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How does it become a
disorder?
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12 |
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The making of SA/SP
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13 |
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How many of us are there?
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17 |
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Test yourself for SA/SP
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19 |
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Are worry and anxiety the
same?
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19 |
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What about stress
disorder?
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21 |
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Effect of culture on
social anxiety
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21 |
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Being overwhelmed by
social stressors
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22 |
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CHAPTER 2 DISSECTING SA/SP - WHAT IT
IS & ISN’T
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29 |
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What
are its social characteristics?
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29 |
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How
are shyness, high sensitivity
& introversion related? |
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Assessing
the place of embarrassment & shame
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36 |
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Differentiating
overlapping disorders
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38 |
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CHAPTER
3 SEARCHING FOR ORIGINS AND TRIGGERS
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45 |
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How
does social anxiety originate?
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45 |
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What
are its predisposing factors?
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45 |
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How
developmental factors affect us
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52 |
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Looking
at childhood upbringing and experiences
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56 |
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How
cumulative stress impacts us
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58 |
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What
triggering mechanisms do
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59 |
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CHAPTER
4 KEEPING SOCIAL ANXIETY GOING
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What
are maintaining mechanisms?
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63 |
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When
“anxiety” isn’t anxiety
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84 |
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Drugs,
medications, and environmental toxins
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CHAPTER
5 APPROACHING RECOVERY
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89 |
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How
others respond to us
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89 |
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Aiming
at recovery versus cure
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92 |
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Finding
the key to motivation
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101 |
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Making
the recovery decision
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105 |
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Starting
the decision-making process
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105 |
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Formulating
risk-taking decisions
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108 |
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Problem
solving model
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111 |
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Change
guidelines
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112 |
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Need
for balance
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114 |
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CHAPTER
6 TARGETING AROUSAL
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115 |
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What
does psychological treatment entail?
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115 |
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Relaxing
with physical techniques
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115 |
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Relaxing
with cognitive-affective techniques
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128 |
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CHAPTER
7 MODIFYING THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIORS
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131 |
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What
is cognitive therapy?
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131 |
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How
do we detect these cognitive errors?
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136 |
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Fear
Defense Statements
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141 |
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Coping
with panic attacks
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142 |
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Why
we need to control worry
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143 |
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Safety
behaviors
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144 |
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What
is cognitive-behavioral therapy?
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149 |
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How
effective is cognitive-behavioral therapy?
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154 |
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Individual
versus group therapy
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154 |
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What
really goes on in CBGT?
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155 |
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CHAPTER
8 BECOMING SOCIALLY EFFECTIVE
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157 |
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What
is social effectiveness?
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157 |
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How
is communication involved?
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159 |
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Pinpointing
barriers to communication
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161 |
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Improving
our verbal communication
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163 |
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Spotting
thinking preferences
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163 |
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Responding
to interpersonal cues
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166 |
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Why
is listening important?
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169 |
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How
to listen effectively
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169 |
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Acquiring
the skills of active listening |
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Why
image is essential
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172 |
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Grabbing
attention
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175 |
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What
about verbal behavior?
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178 |
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Creating
the 30-second grabber
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179 |
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Applying
public speaking image tips
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182 |
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CHAPTER
9 SHARPENING PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
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185 |
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What
is assertiveness?
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185 |
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How
to assess assertiveness
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186 |
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Simplifying
systematic assertiveness skills
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187 |
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Declaring
our personal rights
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189 |
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Dealing
with procrastination
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189 |
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How
is self-esteem important?
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191 |
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Raising
self-esteem
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193 |
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Raising
Self-Efficacy
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196 |
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Reducing
disappointment
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197 |
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Recognizing
our anger
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198 |
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Controlling
anger
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200 |
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Saying
“goodbye” to anger
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201 |
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Embracing
anger guidelines
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202 |
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Forgiving
parents and moving on
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202 |
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CHAPTER
10 NAVIGATING THE MEDICATION MAZE
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205 |
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SA/SP
medications: “Eye of newt and toe of frog”?
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205 |
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Prescribing
for children and adolescents
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217 |
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Reviewing
medications
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218 |
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Getting
hold of psychotropic drugs
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218 |
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Locating
drug assistance programs
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219 |
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Receiving
Social Security Disability Insurance
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220 |
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What
about Supplemental Security Income?
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221 |
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CHAPTER
11 MOVING FROM LONELINESS TO DATING
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223 |
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How
prevalent is loneliness?
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223 |
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How
lonely are you?
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223 |
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Is
all loneliness the same?
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224 |
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What
it’s like to be chronically lonely
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228 |
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Treating
loneliness
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232 |
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Approaching
dating
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233 |
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Where
to meet people
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238 |
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Coming
out
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254 |
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How
to come out
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255 |
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CHAPTER
12 MAKING CONTACTS FOR FRIENDS AND PROFIT
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259 |
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Why
network?
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259 |
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Barry’s
resource seeking exchange
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263 |
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Ascertaining
our existing network
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264 |
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Cultivating
contacts
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265 |
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Pursuing
job-related networking
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266 |
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Valuing
personal assistance
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271 |
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Maximizing
contact advantages
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273 |
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Using
role models
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275 |
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CHAPTER
13 MARKETING YOURSELF IN THE JOB MARKET
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277 |
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Becoming
a marketer
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277 |
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Strategic
personal marketing then means
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279 |
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Researching
the market
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288 |
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Tooting
your own horn
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292 |
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To
résumé or not to résumé
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293 |
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Finessing
the interview
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295 |
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Riding
out stress interviews
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297 |
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Becoming
self-employed
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298 |
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CHAPTER
14 OVERCOMING SWEATING, BLUSHING, AND BB
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What
causes excessive sweating?
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301 |
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What
causes severe blushing?
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302 |
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Curing
sweating and blushing with ETS
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303 |
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Addressing
the bashful bladder
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306 |
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Treating
with supplements and natural products
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308 |
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Is
the answer to SA/SP in the inner ear?
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311 |
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Is
the answer in the eyes?
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312 |
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Interacting
with pets
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314 |
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Overcoming
insomnia
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315 |
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CHAPTER
15 ACCESSING PROFESSIONALS AND RESOURCES
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319 |
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How
can we tell if it’s time to seek help?
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319 |
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Looking
for a clinician
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319 |
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What
to do for the first visit
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323 |
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What
to expect on the first visit
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325 |
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Characteristics
of effective therapists
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325 |
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How
does therapy work?
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326 |
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Dealing
with a therapist or a best friend?
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326 |
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Researching
insurance coverage
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327 |
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Locating
professional organizations and others
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328 |
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Tapping
into research programs
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331 |
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Providing
family help and support
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335 |
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Accessing
online resources
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336 |
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Ten
commandments for overcoming SA/SP |
340 |
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BIBLIOGRAPHY
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343 |
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INDEX
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365 |
